Query:
Practice Celibacy... People get married....also have children....how do we practice celibacy if I am to get
married and start a family? I understand you say it is hard for everyone to follow the path of spirituality
because it requires perfection, but does that mean people who are married and have children....can't do this?
or should wait until they are done having children and then follow this spiritual
path?
Vijay Kumar:
Following the path of enlightenment for a lady is very difficult! God
Almighty ordained only men following the path... not ladies! Why? The imbibed feeling of Moha (deep emotional
attachment) that exists within every woman prohibits one from traveling the path of enlightenment (kaivalya
jnana). Why? If Moha did not exist in the cosmic system... soon after the birth of a baby... there would be
none to take care of the child.
It is the deep imbibed feeling of Moha that makes a woman stop midway and
tend to a crying child! In essence of Moha... life in the cosmic system would go astray... the prime reason
why in the history of mankind only two women gained enlightenment compared to thousands rather millions of
men doing it!
Gargi and Maitreyi... Both gained enlightenment in their lifetime. Gargi
was the famous philosopher who engaged self in a public discourse... on the taboo subject of sex. Gargi
ultimately defeated Pundit Mandan Mishra on the subject! Maitreyi was the dutiful wife of Sage
Jnanavalakya... the compiler of Jnanavalakya Upanishad!
The path of enlightenment is really difficult to make it in a lifetime!
The uncharted path of spirituality demands highest level of perfection and sacrifice! Easier said than
done... ladies are not meant for the tough spiritual path. One needs the mettle of Gargi or Maitreyi to
travel the path of enlightenment and salvation (moksha).
Before starting on the path of spirituality... we need to decide the goal of our present life! The path of
spirituality can never be traveled with preconditions! Yes... one can make it even after marriage... but there are
very stiff conditions attached! Sexual indulgence must be limited to a maximum of twice per month.
The cosmic quota of energy provided by God Almighty to every man and
woman... month after month is required to be preserved for awakening of the Kundalini. Unless we travel the
path of celibacy... the Kundalini awakening would always remain a dream! As enumerated in the sacred Bhagavad
Gita... sexual indulgence was only meant for procreation and not pleasure.
Limiting our wants willingly... practice of celibacy voluntarily is the
call of the day! It can definitely be practiced... but demands very high level of patience and sacrifice! We
have a limited time span of 70 to 80 years. The sooner we start the journey... the better! In the later years
of life... it is ego that dominates! By that time it is too late to travel the path of
spirituality!
Bhagavad Gita only spells the do's and don'ts! When to travel the path... is the discretion one has to exercise
independent of all! No spiritual master can ever guide one in the matter! The voice of our soul atman would always
guide us on the right path. In the circumstances it is best to hear the sweet small inner voice of our soul
atman!
Traveling the path of absolute truthfulness... one can distinctly hear
the voice of our soul atman! Knowing well the body has been manifested by our soul atman... to cleanse itself
of the dross impurities within... why not make the voice of our soul atman as our companion in the journey of
life! We shall never remain a loser!
A to Z of Practice Celibacy explained in words everyone can easily understand and
fathom. More on married can be found at : Celibacy Definition... Vijay Kumar - 5th June 2010.
Full text of query: People get married....also have
children....how do we practice celibacy if I am to get married and start a family? I understand you say that
it is hard for everyone to follow the path of spirituality because it requires perfection, but does that mean
that people who are married and have children....can't do this? or should wait until they are done having
children and then follow this path?